A friend posted a link on Facebook, and the title sucked me in: Why We Love to Hoard. It seemed like something right up my alley, so I read it (I encourage you to; it’s a really interesting read).
But towards the end the author wrote a sentence that completely changed how I’m clearing stuff out of our home:
“…for each item I ask myself a simple question: If I didn’t have this, how much effort would I put in to obtain it?”
Wow. That is the question, isn’t it? All those things I’m keeping “just in case,” or “for later,” or “for someday”….if I didn’t already have it, would I ever go looking for it? I’m seeing everything in my home with new eyes. And it works both ways: there are some things that are suddenly totally justifiable to me, because yes, I’d go out and buy them again in a heartbeat. I would buy this again. Or, the irreplaceable mementos of grandparents; the things you can’t just go out and “buy again” because they don’t exist anymore: the “keep the quilts that great-grandma made” kind of items.
Others, though…yeesh. It feels like I need to go back through the house yet again, from top to bottom, and just weed. Because heaven knows that there are dozens of things lurking in this home that I would never in a million years actively seek out to “obtain” again.
I try to do that every so often and I used to be more ruthless about it. Lately, though, Ive been getting lazy and putting it off.
“Ruthless” is a good word. I find it’s harder to be truly ruthless when you have to deal with other people’s stuff, though.