I’m eyeing this slightly apprehensively…..is there really a “typical” day around here? Regardless, here is the lay of the land for a random Monday in January, when I decided to join the linkup at Simple Homeschool…..
I’m up at 6:00, as always….I’ve been up at 6:00 for so long my brain has acclimated and I don’t even need an alarm clock. I love this time of day; the entire house still asleep and dark and quiet; just me with coffee and my Bible. I open the living room curtains and peek out to see if I can see the moon, then spend my hour–by far, the quietest hour of my day–alone with God.
At 7:00 I reluctantly drag myself away from my cozy corner, grab my water from the fridge, and head upstairs to get ready. It’s a full morning, so I can’t move quite as slowly as I sometimes do.
7:20 brings a smiling four-year-old and “Mun” (her faithful Blanket) to my door, while I’m still attempting to put myself together. “It’s a preschool day!” she announces with a smile, and she hangs out on the floor of my closet, singing and playing with my jewelry, while I finish getting ready, stepping around the pajama-clad little one.
We head downstairs together. I start a load of laundry, feed the dogs, and she and I have our first “just Mommy and me” time of the day: breakfast. The “just us” doesn’t last as long as usual since her 14-year-old brother comes down early this morning; he’s heading out with us because of a doctor’s appointment today. My twelve-year-old daughter is still asleep and will probably stay asleep for awhile longer. I pull our school books from the cabinet, arrange things on the kitchen counter, and write a note encouraging her to enjoy her quiet morning. (While I am the type who loves quiet mornings, the lone extrovert in this house tends not to be a fan.) My work-from-home pharmacist husband is downstairs, clocking in at 7:00 in the basement; no one is ever really alone in this house. I flip the laundry that I put in before breakfast while my youngest gets dressed, and then we’re off.
My son packed all his school books for the day in a bag and starts working during the drive to preschool. My youngest attends a Reggio-inspired, home-based preschool run by another homeschooling mom for a few hours twice a week; to say she loves it would be an understatement. I drop her off with hugs, and my son and I make a quick run to the library before his doctor’s appointment, where I pick up holds and he discovers a new Rick Riordan book on the Hot Picks shelf. Back in the car and off to the doctor.
Today’s appointment was doctor initiated; she wanted to check in on how the new dose of antidepressants was working for my kiddo. I sat and listened to him answer her inquiries, question after question, praying a silent thank you, Jesus, over and over as each item got checked off her list.
Any thoughts of hurting yourself or suicide in the past two weeks?
Thank you, Jesus. THANK YOU.
They chat about school and she asks what he does with his free time, if he usually manages to get his school done mid-morning. “I write,” he tells her. “Write?” she asks. “About what?”
And then I watch him light up as he explains to her how he writes about music, how he loves music--so many different kinds of music–and he writes reviews and critiques of albums and songs and rankings….
I cannot put into words my sense of relief as I watch this kid get excited about something again. Get excited about life again.
We’re done at the doctor early enough that I have some time at home before I need to get my little. I seize the time to knock out the laundry that’s been waiting in the dryer, then (finally) hang up the platform swing my twelve-year-old got for Christmas. It’s warming up to almost 50 degrees today, and tomorrow looks even better. (It is winter. You take what you can get. 😉 )
The twelve-year-old has had a productive morning at home, knocking out her school while we were away and now curled up reading the Missy Piggle-Wiggle books we stumbled across while looking for Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle to read aloud. She jumps in the car with me as I head out to pick up my youngest, wanting to be the first to tell her sister that the swing is up and ready in the backyard.
We’re home in time to visit with Daddy during his 11:30 lunch break; the sisters head to the swing in the backyard for only a little bit (it’s still cold!) while I fix lunch for the little and me. The bigs make their lunches, too, and today we eat together around the kitchen table (oldest son has been known to eat in the dining room….apparently teens need their space). My son is laughing uncontrollably as he explains his idea to create an entire album “recorded” by the dog, and starts writing lyrics to the kind of songs that Kina would sing while I remind him to at least keep it appropriate while we eat.
Once lunch is cleaned up and the dishwasher started (around 1:00), my youngest and I head upstairs for her second (and most favorite) “just Mommy and me” time: reading before her quiet time. We have outgrown the rocker in her room and now just curl up on the bed in the master bedroom, today getting to choose from fresh library books I got on our trip this morning. We read and snuggle and I admit this is my favorite time, too.
Big hugs as I leave her in her bedroom for some quiet time….and I go downstairs to get my quiet time. The bigs are knee-deep in their own things; my daughter has started the second Missy Piggle-Wiggle book she brought home, while my son is creating cover art for the dog’s album. (It’s actually pretty stinkin’ funny.)
At about 1:30 my husband’s music is oozing up through the floorboards and the older kids are around, but this is as quiet as it gets when everyone is awake. This is my recharge time; I’m going over any written schoolwork from the morning, and reading or writing or thinking and planning, and while there are occasional days I don’t get it, this highly-sensitive introvert makes sure this time happens as often as possible.
At 3:00 I realize I’ve stumbled into bonus time: the four-year-old actually fell asleep. Regular naps are a distant memory, but she does still sleep once or twice a week, and today is apparently one of those days. I take the extra time to get some housework done and remind my son we leave for math at 3:30.
Finding a tutor for math has been a huge blessing for us. Once the words “algebra” start appearing in curriculum, I’m officially in over my head, and this math teacher has been wonderful for my son. He needs someone as confident and competent as her, and I love seeing him through a different set of eyes (namely, less worried eyes). It turns out that in spite of his dread of math, it “comes really naturally” to him and he’s doing quite well.
I spend his hour-long math lesson roaming the library where we meet up, and come home with more library books for everyone. (Yes….I might have a problem.) When his session ends I text my husband that we’re finished, and he (ahem) calls in an order to Planet Sub that I’ll pick up on our way home. Kids eat free night conveniently falls on math night. While this was not planned, I will happily take advantage of the situation; so much so that the cashier calls, “See you next week!” as we walk out the door. (Blush.)
Math does knock the day out of whack. My usual snuggle-with-my-little and watch something after quiet time doesn’t happen, and my bigs don’t get the “up in their room alone time” they seem to crave by late afternoon. Instead, my son and I come in with bags of warm sub sandwiches, and we gather in the kitchen to eat and talk about our day. Once dinner is over and the kitchen cleaned up, the girls take off to play in the basement, which is finally free now that Daddy’s off work. I’m frequently invited to watch “shows” they perform together, always interesting mash-ups of whatever my older daughter happens to be listening to incessantly (this week, The Greatest Showman) and liberal doses of My Little Pony music. “The boys” enjoy some (relative) quiet until I bring the little one up at 7:00 and start bedtime rounds.
PJ’s, teeth brushing, and another slew of books spread out on our bed for one last “just Mommy and me” time. Once I tuck her in and pray with her, I move to my 12-year-old’s room, where we have about thirty minutes of what she calls “talk time,” before I pray with her and say good-night (though she’ll read for at least another hour before she actually goes to sleep). Downstairs for about thirty minutes of sibling-free time for my son, who loves this opportunity to have the parents all to himself. Once he’s off to bed (I’ll pray with him and say goodnight before I turn in, myself), it’s finally just my husband and me and we can talk in peace without interruptions. (Finally.)
Typical? Well, yes, I guess I see glimpses of typical in there…..